I have an entire blog post in the works on a wonderful visit from my cousin Becky and her family last week, but until my next day off, let me offer you a series of photos from the past week or so as consolation for the delay. Enjoy! Have a great week!
When I woke yesterday, the first day of an exciting month for our family, I felt myself recalling the many, many firsts of months when I was a little girl. I had read somewhere that it was good luck to have “Rabbit, Rabbit” be the first thing you say out loud on the first of the month. I would be devastated if I accidentally forgot and did something stupid like say, “Good morning, Dad” or “I’m late for school.” Heavens forbid!
I didn’t know what would happen in Aug. 2010, the last time we stood at the doorstep of a month that would make us parents. I know I didn’t say “Rabbit, rabbit.” I didn’t know our world would be lifted up and thrown about like a boomerang, this way and that way and that way again.
So, restless, nervous, tired from being restless and nervous, I rolled over yesterday morning, held Scott as tight as I could and whispered “Rabbit, rabbit.”
Just in case.
We had an ultrasound on Monday and Little Miss is looking very healthy. She was head-down (yay for learning the error of her naughty ways when she was breech the week before and Mommy threatened 18 years of grounding!) and is measuring larger and further along. This really could happen at any time. My aching body rejoices knowing that these last few tweaks and pains and sleepless nights won’t last for long and soon, very soon, I could be holding our baby girl.
I have just one more week of work before I become a full-time Momma for three months. I battled for a while as to how long I would work and how long I would take off to be with my two, count ‘em TWO kiddos. I know I’ve done well and made it far and I’m proud of the way I’ve handled myself despite the four months’ of morning sickness, the two months’ of Mexican cravings and the nine months of hormones and emotions. I’ve had support and concern and great soothing wise voices and tips and laughter, and I guess that’s what they meant at my New Hire Orientation when they said our team was more of a family than anything else.
So aside from yet another load of baby laundry (we are loved, we are loved) we’re pretty much physically and mentally and emotionally as ready for her arrival as we’ll ever be.
I will pack my hospital bag differently this time.
I will not take solid foods for granted.
I will be prepared with five different phone numbers to text or call for the five different scenarios I will need to handle with screams or tears or happy blubbers when I’m all alone in a hospital room. (I’m hoping for happy blubbers)
I’ve always hated May. It’s a dreadful month for me.
There is the annual celebration of all things Mother. And then the day that I no longer had one.
My original due date was two days before the day my mom passed away and I spent two days crying alone at night, wondering what sort of cruel joke I’d be handed next. It doesn’t look like we’ll make it to that date and whether or not that’s for better or worse, I’ll let Little Miss come on the day she was meant to debut and we’ll figure the rest out later.
I don’t know how I’ll handle a mother-daughter relationship after so many years without one of my own.
I’ve had great maternal influences, don’t get me wrong — my Aunt Alice has turned into someone I know I can trust with any revelation big or small and after the past year, I know we’ve got each other each and every time the world brings us down; I had a very good relationship with my Mother-in-Law for quite some time and I’m grateful for those memories and bonding moments; and my stepmother, through her role as a Nana, has shown me maternal qualities I never realized existed in that woman I once couldn’t understand.
I’ve got lots of great ladies in my life, though. Some of them mothers and some of them not.
My sister Melinda was the first person I ever told about Down Syndrome. It took 20 minutes to type the words in my phone after Scott left to run some errands shortly after our pediatrician delivered the news. I just had to tell her. She’s been there ever since, even if she’s thousands of miles away.
And I’ve got cousins, like Becky, who make me want to be a better Mom, a better person; who make me want to make tough decisions with strength and faith and the knowledge that it will really all be OK.
And my friends. A girl can only say she’s lucky so many times before people start to roll their eyes, but really I am so blessed. Old friends (I love you Jeans and Kacey and Allison) and my newer, local friends who are literally just down the road when I need them (I’m starting to get too many to name… I love you, I love you, I love you.)
So, I pray that their influences on my life, all of them, big and small, will be enough to help me become the best mother I can be to the little girl I never knew if I could handle having. The little girl who has already tested me so much; who I’m positive will keep me on my toes and show me love I never knew I could experience.
So we’re a-marchin’. One day at a time, one smile-inducing moment with our son at a time. Zack is standing more and walking (with assistance) all around the house. He is climbing steps like a pro and using his signs often. He loves “reading” his many books and is still too rough when petting Rocky the Cat, who puts up with it anyway. If you ask Zack for a hug, he will throw his arms around your neck and squeeze, squeeze, squeeze, sometimes adding in a pat on your back. He kisses his toys, he waves “hello” and “goodbye” and he eats more food than a toddler should ever fit in their stomach at one time. He’s good with strangers and yet has a special connection to certain loved ones in his life. He loves watching the world outside from our front door and even more so enjoys walks down the street, especially if the puppies join us.
There are so few moments left with the three of us as a family. I plan to enjoy them all to the fullest.
And though I’m the happiest I’ve been in quite some time, I still believe in silly phrases on the first of the month. But I believe more in creating happiness from sadness and learning lessons from the littlest bits of life.
I still believe that May could be a pretty amazing month.
We’ve been cookin’ things up in the Zee Household and Zack told me it was finally time to let the world know.
It’s not that I haven’t had much time lately or that I didn’t have much to say. It’s that I had something big, growing figuratively in my heart and most literally in my belly. It’s that I had to hold it tight all to myself, a precious secret that doesn’t come by in life all too often.
It’s the whirlwind of emotions that come with a new chapter, a new discovery; the talks and plans and dreams we have battled between making and not making; editing and revising. And in the end, we decide just to live. And to love. Because through it all, we’re pretty darned good at that loving thing. (We think so at least, and Z-Man tells us we’re pretty good at what we do)
Z 2 2 B will be joining our Love Fest, happy thoughts willing, in May. S/he has already proven themselves to be quite a handful, at least if morning sickness and difficulty is concerned, but those 18 years of being grounded ought to set them straight really quickly, so don’t worry.
Scott and I are so excited to become parents again, to have a tiny human being wrap us around its itsy-bitsy little finger and then grow into a crawling, giggling, beautiful toddler. We pray that “the kids” grow up loving each other, playing with each other and pushing each other; that they are as much friends as they are siblings and that they will always have the others’ back. We hope that we learn from every parent mistake we’re sure to make and that we always take a time-out for a spontaneous pre-bedtime tickle and an extra splash at bedtime.
That we never forget the big things but don’t let them be the only things we see. That we are steered instead by guts and heart and that good ole-fashioned love fest we’ve wanted all our lives.
To those of you who knew, thank you for being good secret-keepers and vent-listeners.
I no longer believe in being lucky. Only blessed.
So yes, we’ve been great. Oh-so-great. My husband and my first-born are playing upstairs, filling our hallways and stairways with echoes of laughter. I can’t even imagine the beautiful harmony that will happen when we add one more giggle to our repertoire.
Another chapter in our adventure. In our journey.
Care to join us?